Let’s start this post off with a little grammar lesson. If that sentence doesn’t draw in the readers, then I don’t know what will. English is notorious for its difficulty to learn for foreign speakers. There are seemingly endless amounts of rules to follow. What makes it even worse is that many of the rules contradict other rules. What I want to talk about today is when to use the word whom.
The rule is actually pretty simple. In a sentence, you use who when it’s the subject of the sentence and whom when it’s the object of the verb. A couple examples from scripture will help us out. Ephesians 2:4-5 reads, “But because of his great love for us, God, whois rich in mercy, made us alive with Christ even when we were dead in transgressions- it is by grace you have been saved.” It is God, the subject of the sentence, who is rich in mercy, so who is correct. John 13:23 says, “One of them, the disciple whomJesus loved, was reclining next to him.” The subject of the sentence is Jesus and the verb is his love. The object of the verb is the disciple (John), so you would use whom to refer to him.
I say all of this, not because I’m all that concerned with teaching proper grammar, but to make the point that we are all a Whom. What I mean by that is that each of us is the object of God’s love. Friends, you are so deeply and incomparably loved by God.
As seen in the example above, that is how John defined himself all throughout the Gospel that he wrote. You will not find a single instance of him calling himself by name. Instead, he always referred to himself as “the disciple whom Jesus loved.” Imagine if that is how we defined ourselves.
Too often we decide to define ourselves by lesser titles. You could be king, queen, president, CEO, doctor, general, or whatever else but even the loftiest of titles pale in comparison to the title of “the disciple whom Jesus loves.” Every other title will pass away, but God’s love for you is eternal.
Many of us go the other way in our definitions of ourselves. We tend to go with failure, sinner, not-good-enough, ugly, pathetic, and many more. None of those things are how your heavenly father views you. He sees you as his beautiful child. He sees you as his beloved. You are the apple of his eye. I know that is hard to comprehend because we know our shortcomings. So does God, and he doesn’t care. You were made in his image and now live surrounded by his unfathomable love.
No matter how high or low you think of yourself, you are “the disciple whom Jesus loves.” We are all a Whom. So whenever the world tells you differently, whenever you look in the mirror and don’t like what’s looking back, and whenever your thoughts go to wonder if you are good enough, remember who you are, whose you are, and whom you are.