The world is a fickle place, and people’s feelings are ever changing. Because of this, we have erred in assuming the God operates in the same way. We have erroneously placed upon him the same wavering mindset that we have been impacted by in our lives. We start to question how he feels about us every time that we make a mistake or have a failure. This simply is not true of him. God spoke to this himself when, in Malachi 3:6, he said, “For I, the Lord, do not change.” Unfortunately, people who come and go and whose opinion can alter at a moment’s notice have surrounded us all our lives.
We really get ourselves into trouble when we start to think that God’s love is inconsistent. We all have a tainted view of love. Somewhere along the way, someone has withheld their love or taken it away entirely. This probably happened a long time ago for most of us. It is pretty unlikely that any of us ended up marrying our first love and are living happily ever after. Each of us probably had lots of heartbreaks during our teenage years. On top of that, we have all fallen out of love with someone at some point. Even genuine love will have its issues. Family units are supposed to be filled with love (sadly, not all of them are), but there will even be moments of disappointment and pain in those as well. All of that is normal life, but each one of them plays a part in shaping how we view love.
This skewed view eventually affects our understanding of God’s love. We start to think that he will act in the same way that many in our lives have. That, however, is not the case. Colossians 3:12 tells us we are chosen by God to be loved. This is not something that comes and goes, but a promise forever. God is never going to unchoose you. He has decreed that, as long as you live, you will be the recipient of his love.
This may be hard for some of us to fully embrace because we have had people in our lives that have chosen to not love us anymore. This has caused our hearts to harden. The hearts of flesh that God has given us turn a little bit more to stone each time. We start to question just how lovable that we are. We see ourselves as our baggage and failures. God does not see us that way though. He sees us in one way, his beloved chosen.
It’s ironic, as many of our emotions tend to be, that our previous hurts in life drive us away from the Great Healer. We think that our brokenness will change the way that God feels for us. This is the same God who looked upon us in our feeble state and sent his son to die for us. He did this to demonstrate to us just how loved that we are. Every page of the Bible screams to us that we are loved by him. In John 5:19, Jesus tells us, “Whatever the Father does, the Son also does.” If you want to know how God feels about you, look to Jesus. Jesus was kind, compassionate, sympathetic, empathetic, giving, forgiving, and loving to those around him. Those are the adjectives that fit God’s feelings towards you.
I could have until the end of time to try to figure out exactly why it is that God has chosen to love you and me, and I would never find an answer. It is truly beyond me. Thankfully, there is not a single place in all of scripture where it asks me to make sense of his love, but there are lots of places that ask me to accept it. That is all that we are to do. Don’t get lost in all of the reasons as to why you think that you may not be lovable. God doesn’t care about a single one of them. All that he cares about is that you experience his never-ending, unchanging affection for you. He offers it to us freely, although it cost Jesus his life. It is not your choice as to if you are loved, but it is your choice to accept it or not.
Being loved is the greatest feeling in the world. To know that there is one that has chosen you should bring a lightheartedness and fullness into your heart. Will you accept that God loves you? He does. Will you accept that he has chosen you? He has. You are his beloved, called to be loved by him.